I wanted to blog about this a while ago but never got around to it...I got a couple minutes to spare now while I procrastinate on going to toys r us so...WHAT THE HEY!Gender Roles...Women have been encouraged to think for themselves and get from underneath their men's thumbs and be free thinking individuals, anything they can do we can do as well...sometimes better right? Well true, we can do anything we set our minds to (minus procreating) and I think that this movement was vital to the history of women...I couldn't imagine what my life would be had it not occured! Wearing an apron, barefoot and pregnant during the best years of my life doesn't really sound like my cup o fucking tea!
BUT....
I think somewhere along the line the roles got blurred...or skewed...or misinterpreted. I don't know what happened...but something happened. I think it was probably the 80's...with the movement of crack into our communities, black homes became single parent homes with women carrying the burden of being mother and father (I never really remember seeing as many female crackheads as I saw male crackheads come to think of it *shrug*)...but where was I? Oh yeah...women had to become both parents. So yeah, after playing both roles a woman starts to think "I don't need no man...I got this...we not where I want us to be but I got this under control" and we as women became comfortable in that role...our mothers, grandmothers, aunts, cousins, etc played that role...that's what we were taught...I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "Epitome, always remember, you don't need no man." And that's what was ingrained in me.
In my first relationship I attempted to be both the man AND woman. Play both the roles. Pay bills, run the house, put shit together...all of that.
A mistake.
I realized that I need to play my part. We are at our core women...soft, caring, docile, etc. Now with that said, I'm not saying we need to be a pushover, but we DO have to remember that part of us. We need to balance the strong side of our character with the soft side.
All in all we need to let the man be the man.
So I believe in traditional gender roles with a new jack swing twist. Not as docile as the 50's era housewife but not as hard as many women today.
Plus I would love to dress up and roam around my house in 50's style clothing with a new millenium twist to it a la Dita Von Teese....bish can dress her ass off!
I think somewhere along the line the roles got blurred...or skewed...or misinterpreted. I don't know what happened...but something happened. I think it was probably the 80's...with the movement of crack into our communities, black homes became single parent homes with women carrying the burden of being mother and father (I never really remember seeing as many female crackheads as I saw male crackheads come to think of it *shrug*)...but where was I? Oh yeah...women had to become both parents. So yeah, after playing both roles a woman starts to think "I don't need no man...I got this...we not where I want us to be but I got this under control" and we as women became comfortable in that role...our mothers, grandmothers, aunts, cousins, etc played that role...that's what we were taught...I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "Epitome, always remember, you don't need no man." And that's what was ingrained in me.
In my first relationship I attempted to be both the man AND woman. Play both the roles. Pay bills, run the house, put shit together...all of that.
A mistake.
I realized that I need to play my part. We are at our core women...soft, caring, docile, etc. Now with that said, I'm not saying we need to be a pushover, but we DO have to remember that part of us. We need to balance the strong side of our character with the soft side.All in all we need to let the man be the man.
So I believe in traditional gender roles with a new jack swing twist. Not as docile as the 50's era housewife but not as hard as many women today.
Plus I would love to dress up and roam around my house in 50's style clothing with a new millenium twist to it a la Dita Von Teese....bish can dress her ass off!
5 comments:
Well said bunny boo! I totally agree with what you said. *forces self to not rebel against the idea* I dig all that, but what I really dig is the fact that you also like Dita! *sniffle* "we got sum'in in cooooommon!"
(why's that the only part of the song that I know? smh)
I know it's hard Reesey poo!!!! TRUST ME! I know!
And yaaaaaaasss! I luh her!
PS-that's the only part I know too *shrug*
You on to something here... seriously. One lady commented on a blog of mine, that a guy she was dating told her to "tuck her dick" - I've waiting on a opening to use that shit. LOL.
Men love WOMEN.
I think it has to do with women running into a lot of aint shit men. I was raised with both of my parents as u were but we still have gotten told never to depend on a man. I was taught never to depend much on anyone because people will and can let you down. That's something I've come to find out the hard way, but it's the truth. I know my role as a woman and I play it will. I want my man to be a man so I want him to do all the things a man should do. But that doesn't mean I won't pick up the slack if it's requested of me. That's how it works.
SMH...I agree 100% i once had the same problem but we def need to play our part and let them to do them things. I think things run so much smoother when we let them run things just a little!
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