(I've never read the book, the picture just goes with the blog lol)
Ladies....if you went into a shoe store today and saw a pair of shoes that you just HAD to have, I mean you saw them and instantly realized you had 3 outfits that would go perfect with them...so you ask the salesman/lady for the shoe, he/she goes in the back and brings you out a completly different shoe.
"We didn't have what you wanted but this is similar." They say
What would you do?
A.) Take the shoe. Sure it's a different color and the heel isn't quite to your liking but you could still work with it
B.) Tell them thanks but no thanks, you'd rather spend your hard earned money on what you love not what you can put up with.
Yall bitches betta had chose the second answer.
The point of that little exercise? To show that we don't settle when it comes to little things like shoes (well....I won't say little because shoes are mucho importante)....but we as women (speaking generally of course) are so willing to settle when it comes to our partners. So willing to take a 2nd place, 3rd place, hell even a muh fucker who ain't even placing in the special olympics just to say....
"I got a man"
Let me back it up.
Was talking to my hood rat friend and she asked me what dudes were sniffing round my cookie jar. I told her none really. I ain't been fooling with nobody like that. She says,
"I was talking to this girl at school (Sidenote: have you noticed all project/hood girls are in a nursing program? Not saying that everyone in a nursing program is hood/project) but she said, 'more women would have men if they stopped looking for these men who meet all this criteria they have.' She said if you find a man who has 5 of 10 of the qualities you seek, you should consider yourself lucky."
........
Oh really now?
- Decent Job
- Heterosexual
- Honest
- Has a car (in Richmond...you need one)
- No drama
- Has direction in life
- Same/similar value set
- Respects me/my son
- Not possesive
- Funny
Fuck allof dat!
I'll be a lonely bitch before I let a negro with more "ain't gots" than he has "gots" come lay his ass up in my life. I don't hardly need a freeloader in my life.
Shoooo....I already got a kid and a dog.
"Let the church say amen....and amen again."
4 comments:
Your young and free right now - you should not settle. Also, your list was pretty realistic; you're not asking much. So don't settle, My Thoughts.
I think women start settling when those 30's hit and they're single and lonely. Maybe they misspent their young and free years and a heavy serving of bitterness sets in, along with an extra 30 pounds, and 2 or 3 kids. They begin to see that the career wasn't all important and isn't fulfilling them like they thought success would.
Then they get out there and the men they are attracted to aren't attracted to them anymore. And they see the competition is fierce. They remember bn young and free, but now they're older and heavier with responsiblities and skeletons. And the action they're getting they would have run from before, they are second guessing: "Maybe he just likes riding the bus"; or "That's sweet he lives with his mom to help her at home."
I'm a believer women should get to getting, while the getting is good...
AMEN!! I just had the is convo with my ex last night! He told me I will forever be alone becuz us female want to much out of men!!! I had to let him no why would i settle for less when i can find the best out there somewhere and if its met for me to be alone for the rest of my life than so be it!!! he has to have all the qualities that i want or I keep it moving. I refuse to lower my standards to raise yours!
actually a lot of women settle because they feel like they have to. They WANT a man so badly it doesn't matter if he doesn't have shit, they just don't wanna be lonely and that's what it boils down to, Having companionship. I also think women with children feel like they have to settle because they get it in their heads that no decent man with everything they'd like would want a woman with a child/children.
If you feel like you're worth more, you won't settle but if in your own eyes you're worth less, then settling becomes a part of who you are.
basically a dude gotta bring more to the table then just his dick cause you can easily go get that somewhere else.
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