Speaking about B4N made me think about being the other woman...I knowingly signed up for it (though he told me, 'oh, we still live together...but it's not like that'....yeah right), so yeah, I did some grimy shit, it won't happen in the future, earlier this year I kinda had a 'fuck the world' mentality on things and just did whatever I felt without thinking about karma or doing what was right and good. But I got smart, and packed up my belongings (so to speak) and came on back to reality.
It also made me reflect on my hood rat friend...she's been a jumpoff or 'the other woman' (and I use the term woman loosely in regards to her) on several occasions...and I remember one episode in particular where she said she wanted to steal this man she was sexing from his girlfriend...not because he was a man she wanted, but just because she simply wanted to. She wanted him to devote all of his time to her without committing to him.
I was perplexed...why would you want him to break up with his girlfriend if you don't want him? She didn't have an answer for me either...but then...I didn't really expect one from her either.
Also...why do women get involved with this involved men and then want to start a relationship with them? (She's done that as well)...if he cheated WITH you...he will cheat ON you...at least that's my opinion anyway. It's nothing but conditioning. You've conditioned this man to think that you're okay with cheating (since you participated in the act of cheating with him) so, eventually he will do the same to you.
Also...why do the jumpoffs attempt to confront the girlfriend (I've had friends of friends who've done this)? What point does that serve? It takes me back to my previous question, why do you want him to be yours anyway? When I was the other woman I had no need to confront the girlfriend, I didn't want her man, I didn't need to tell her that her man was sexing me on a daily...this was not a long term arrangement, he knew that, so did I. We were simply satisfying our carnal needs...though it would have been better if both of us were not involved instead of just me...but hey, we can't change the past right?
I'm rambling...just blogging out loud...by the way, this was in no way meant to offend anyone so don't come in my comments section acting salty.
8 comments:
Thank you! I agree...when I think about it (confronting the main chick) I think, would I want to know that my boyfriend is cheating on me? Sometimes ignorance is truly bliss.
My thoughts exactly!! I'll never understand the motives of the other women...He'll never change, he'll just change up women..smh..
@Sunshine *agreed*
Very true sunshine. I do think I'd want to know if my guy was cheating on me but I wouldn't want to find out by the next broad. I'd really want him to keep it real and just tell me. But the likeliness of that happening is slim to none since people are generally dishonest when it comes to infidelity.
I used to feel the same way you felt until i was put in that situation...
I guess it depends on the intention of the other chick...
I always wondered what went on in the mind of a jump off... Why they do what they do, why they're ok with being 'the other woman' but I guess there's no real reason...
@Krissy I agree, I'd rather find out from my significant other
@Khaki I guess? I personally think that jumpoffs are malicious in nature...yes, even me.
@Eurydice Being that I was at one point one I should have an answer for you right? Well, I have one, just not a good one. I was selfish, I wanted what I wanted and decided I didn't give a fuck who I was stepping on to get it, I tried to rationalize my decision but at the core...but in the end I was just selfish.
i agree w all the comments.
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