Have you seen this movie? It's an oldie but goodie...pretty fucking funny too, anytime it's on cable I watch it...even woke up at 3am on a Wednesday, saw it was on, and sat up and watched it...was tired as fuck the next day at work...
"Why we talking bout one of her favorite movies? Shit is boring..." <---you being disrespectful in my space **eyeroll**
I brought up this movie because of the concept of it and how it ties into my blog...let me give those who haven't seen this movie an ever so brief recap...
Greg is the main character...he daydreams OFTEN about the life he wants to have from being the big man on campus at a prestigious school to being a famous rapper/poet...Greg daydreams so much that it has sidetracked him from real life...
So that's the topic today...dreams sidetracking real life. I've made notice of alot of people going back to school later in life...that's GREAT! It's never too late to get a degree that will afford you more possibilities (not to mention money) than you would have without it...but some of the shit these late bloomers are heading for can be unsettling to me...you're almost 30 yet you're a freshman majoring in Political Science with hopes of becoming a professor...okay...it's possible, yes...but likely? No, sorry to burst your bubble.
It frustrates me even more when these late bloomers have kid(s) to take care of as well because that means (more often than not) that these people are sacrificing opportunities for their kids now. I wanted to be alot of things growing up...I was seriously considering a career in Psychology while in college, wanted to eventually become a therapist, was leaning towards a child therapist...that is until I got pregnant. Then I had to put some things in perspective, decided business was a more stable career path for me, besides my son isn't gonna be able to wait the 10 years for me to really start making money...he needed to eat NOW.
Now...I'm not saying the single mother working a full time with two kids can't go to school and come out a lawyer...I know anybody can do anything they set their mind to...but maybe it's just me who feels that with age (and children) comes responsibility...I'll work a job that I hate going to just so my son can see me every night...I'll work a job that guarantees me 40 hours + benefits every week so that I can take my son to chuck e cheese on a Saturday...I kinda feel like my dreams were set on the back burner when I brought him into the world...so now instead of focusing on my dreams, I'm focusing on his. Once my pride and joy is in college and pursing what he wants to do I'll focus on what I want to do then but until that day happens, his dreams are my new dreams.
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I know someone close to 40 talking about going after a Ph.D. Personally, I think it's nice to have dreams of having Dr. in front of your names (since that's really what its all about, never mind the debt) but I hate when people fail to realize that your days are numbered. You're almost halfway through your life, why spend it all in school and complain the entire time and not spend it with your family, where it really counts. You want the title and credentials but can't explain what you will do with them.
That's all I'm saying...yes you set an example for your family that it's never too late...but you gotta weigh your options. I can remember my mother NEVER being around. When I was in grade school (the times when I wanted her around) she was always working, she even got an award for most overtime in a year from an employee...then in middle/high school she was never around because she was in school...to get a degree which she never used...it's just not worth it to me.3
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