10 Reasons Black Men are Tired of Black Women

I was flipping through the guide on my TV tonight and saw a movie that was already in progress entitled...

Now you know a relationship fanatic such as myself was interested in what this was about...so I tuned in...I liked it, nothing I hadn't heard before really, of course a major focus of why black men are so tired is because of....

We hear that alot huh ladies? Well you know what they say...if something keeps getting said, usually it's fact.

I can agree with the fact that alot (not all of course) black women are angry...truthfully (like they touched on in the movie) women in general are angry...again, not all, but alot. With that said you never hear the term 'Angry White Woman' or 'Angry Asian Woman' or 'Angry Latino Woman'...so what is it we're doing for us to have to bear this label?

1. We start arguments: I can clearly remember arguing with my ex about his dirty clothes. He had a habit of putting his dirty clothes behind the door in the bathroom. Why? I can't tell ya. We had 3 laundry baskets in the house, 2 upstairs and one downstairs...instead of communicating to him my issue with it, I argued about it...that's when I learned that arguing solves nothing...communicating your concerns allows the other person to hear you out and make moves to rectify the situation. Think about it, when your parents used to yell at you to clean your room and call you trifling did it make you want to clean your room? Well I can tell you it made me want to make my room an even bigger mess just because they yelled at me about it. You catch more flies with honey as they say
2. We bash their character: What's the one thing you can say (in several different ways both verbally and non verbally) to a man that will instantly make him want to Chris Breezy you? Threaten his manhood. Saying things like..."you aren't a real man...you a weak nigga...you ain't shit...you got a little dick...my son is more of a man than you are" Or doing things that show you don't see him as 100% man...not including him in important decisions regarding your household, making large purchases without his input, making decisions regarding the life you share in general (i.e. kids, jobs, school, etc) without including him. Now I've never ever directly cut down a man...but indirectly...yuup I have. Two examples of how I'm guilty of this...(a.) with the dirty clothes situation, after yelling at my ex about said clothes and he continued to put his clothes behind the door I put a sign up behind the door that stated 'Clothes don't go here!' with an arrow pointing down...bitch move, I know. I treated him like a child instead of my partner. (b.) I went out and purchased a car without consulting him...granted we weren't married...BUT...we were living together, said car would effect OUR household, for that I was dead wrong and it took me a LONG time to realize that.
3. We make them pay for the mistakes of relationships past: your past 3 ex's cheated...you understandably have trust issues...but then comes this new man and he's doing everything right...what's your first thought? "He's too good to be true...something is wrong with him...I'm just waiting on the other shoe to drop...I know he's just like the rest" the list goes on. Now I'm not saying go into every relationship with the intent that this is the one and he's on the up and up but just because Jo Jo did it doesn't mean Ricky is too.
4. We build walls: Our guards are so high that most men just say fuck it and don't wanna deal...I know that personally in the past a guy could tear through 3 feet of my 20 foot brick wall and I'll put up 5 to accommodate what he destroyed instead of letting him in. My ex told me not that long ago, "I mean damn we were together for 6 years and I never felt like I had you..ever." How fucked up is that? 6 years together, 2 of them living together and he says he never had me...never was able to get close to me...never let him love me...ain't that some shit? Now again, I'm not saying you should go into every relationship/courtship 100% open, walls are there for a reason, to protect oneself, but let a man tear it down, that's what he's supposed to do, he's not trying to make you weak or vulnerable, he just wants to get to YOU.
5. We feel entitled: A man should be happy to be with us, happy that we would give him the time of day, happy that we chose him, happy with what we give him...when did we become the Queen of fucking England? Shouldn't time spent be appreciated on both ends? Shouldn't we be just as happy that a man that is worthwhile is actually entertaining us as well? Shouldn't we be happy he chose us? I can clearly remember saying to a friend about a guy I was dealing with, "Does he know who I am? He should be happy I even looked his fucking way cause girls who look like me don't date boys who look like him." Yeah...I can be a real bitch in case you hadn't noticed. So yeah dude wasn't my usual cup of tea, but overall he was a very nice guy, good head on his shoulders with direction in life and here I am belittling him because I thought his appearance was beneath me so he should let me do whatever the fuck I wanted...sad.
6. We talk too much: I am SO guilty of this. As yall can see I'm a sharer, I'm an open book, you ask me a question, I'm gonna give you an answer...I'm a horrible liar which is why I don't do it...so when my friends ask about my relationship I tell them the scoop from A-Z. That is wrong ass wrong. Just like I don't tell my man everything about my friends, I need not tell my friends everything about my man. Especially when you have friends who like to plant 'bugs in your ears' "What you should do is...If it was me I would...I wouldn't stand for that if I was you..." and more often than not who does this info come from? Your single friends...single friends who have no idea how to be in a relationship. Misery loves company, remember that. Now I'm not saying all your friends want you to be alone like them...but you do have more time for them when you're single...just saying.
7. We let others cloud our judgement: To piggyback off #6...our girlfriends will get in our ears talking about what we should do and even the strongest of women will let a bit of that seep into their psyche...if you say you wouldn't, you're a liar, point blank period. It's a seed of doubt, it's unavoidable...BUT...you ultimately decide what to do with that bit of information that is turning around in your brain. Does your friend know your man? Nope, she's knows what you tell her, she's not there like you are, she doesn't know everything you know about him. Taking information from your friend about your man is like going to a person on the street and asking them for advice. Always remember the best advice to take is your own. No one knows your relationship or your situation like you do...no matter how much you divulge to a 3rd party.
8. We want all or nothing: Relationships take work...it's not going to be all cookies n cream, smiles n rainbows, happy times n sunshine...you're gonna have rough patches, you're going to have things to work through. Instead of fighting through an issue for a man who deserves to be fought for, we'll throw in the towel and move on to the next one. But the reality of the situation is that you may have just left a show room model for a lemon and then you REALLY have an issue girlfriend. We are so quick to fight about frivilous shit but won't fight for what matters.
9. We don't pay attention: We are too busy talking that we don't listen to our men. Now of course we know a man isn't going to come out and say what's wrong (generally speaking) he's gonna give you clues as to what's bothering him, he'll keep giving you clues until he's had it and that results in a blow up which ends usually not favorable for you. We don't pay attention to our men and their needs/wants like we should because we are so busy trying to have our needs/wants met when in all actuality if you meet a man's needs/wants, he's going to give you what you need and want and shit you never knew existed because he wants to keep you happy so you can keep him happy.
10. We stop dating: I know you like "Huh? How can I date if I'm in a relationship"...the answer is simple...date your man. We get in a relationship and think the dating stops...all the shit we did to get that man we don't do anymore...our panties never match our bra...no middle of the day sexting...no morning head...no "let me take you out...my treat"...no cooking favorite meals...none of that. We want men to keep the spice but we must lead by example...they stop doing the shit they used to do cause we stopped doing the shit we used to do.

Now with all that said...every man doesn't (obviously) deserve that treatment, you
got a man who is a real man and handles his business as a man (and I'm not just talking about fucking you proper and getting your nails done but REALLY handling his) then yes, you fight for him, you bend for him, you submit to him...and he should be doing the same for you.