Anywho...today class we will discuss (obviously) snooping...how many of yall have snooped through your partner's belongings?
**counts hands**
I see a few of you out there...nothing to be ashamed of! I have done it too...granted we were broken up at the time...I just wanted to see what was what but that's neither here nor there.
I have a question for you snoopers...why? I know plenty of snoopers...they find info and they call me telling me how they found this or that that proves so and so is cheating...and they all do the same thing afterwards...
Nothing.
They may bring the information to the person in question but usually not...and if they do present the information to their boo the only thing that occurs is an argument ensues and then...nothing...again.
So again I ask...what's the point?
Oh and fellas...don't think yall are exempt from this...yes the ladies are famous for it but yall do it too...
As a matter of fact I always seem to attract snoopers, always wanna know any and everything...guess it seems too good to be true that I actually tell them whatever they want to know because...well...I have nothing to hide, my intentions are always on the up and up.
Story Time!
I remember when my ex and I were living together, I fell asleep in my son's room on the floor one Friday night as my son and I watched some show. He comes and wakes me up like its an emergency at like 2 or 3 in the morning...
"Aye...wake up...come on get up"
"What's wrong?"
"Come in here, hurry up." (walks into our bedroom, I follow, he sits on the bed, he pulls out my old planner from behind his back) "Remember you told me you wrote everything down?"
"Yeah" (me rubbing my eyes)
"So just go on and tell me...it's okay I won't be mad."
"Tell you what? Mad about what?"
"It's okay...I know...I just want you to admit it to me so go ahead."
"Admit what? What are you talking about?"
"I saw it...just tell me you cheated on me."
"WHAT?!?"
"Just admit it."
"What the fuck are you talking about? I've never cheated on anybody in my life!"
"I looked at your planner from when we first started dating (3 years prior) and I noticed everytime we had sex you put a star and my initials...so come on just tell me who OMP is."
**blink, blink, shaking my head**
"You idiot! OMP stands for on my period! You woke me up over this?!?!"
**blinks rapidly, stutters over words**
I can't remember what happened after that but I know he felt like a moron...if by some odd chance I did cheat on him...and wrote down evidence of such...why would I bring that into the house we just moved in together...beside the bed we shared...in plain view everyday? I swear when folk get to snooping that shit clouds their judgement...all common sense goes out the window.
7 comments:
Yeah I'm not for that. Did it once so I see it as a relationship breaker. I'll tell ya that if u look through my stuff I hope u find something worth the effort cause the relationship will be over regardless. I don't entertain that shit.
LMAO @ 'OMP'....I used to mark down in my planner whenever my ex and I had sex as well. I just never had that ish in my purse when I was with him. My first relationship ever I was a habitual snooper. I would hack into his email, his two way pager, chile EVERYTHING and save the evidence just to throw in his face and all it did was caused us to argue and then...nothing just like you said. I was young and dumb then. Now I have no energy to snoop. I don't feel as though I should have to...if there's an urge then there's a problem.
Haha @your ex. See,that's what he gets! I'll admit to snooping. All women do at some point. You can have all the trust int he world but once something feels a little off and you can't shake it, it's like a force takes over you. You can ask a man out right but some will lie. Hell, they will lie on their deathbeds before manning up.
lls @ (omp=on my period),whensnoopinggoesallwrong.com/feeling stupid!lol
So do you think its wrong to snoop at all or are there exceptions to snooping. would if your s/o acting very suspect and not trying to talk about why they acting strange, and your not trying to look stupid as a end result of there suspicious motions shouldnt that give you the right to do a litte investigating?
Snooping is a relationship ender if you ask me. It says to me that you don't trust me and that's obvious by your actions and If I'm the one snooping it says that I don't trust you. A relationship with no trust is no relationship at all!
@Nightfall I've never been a snooper...it's just not in me, but if someone snoops through my stuff it's a red flag...only guilty people snoop (for no reason).
@Starlaa EXACTLY! If you feel like you need to look through a person's belongings you don't trust what they say...and if you don't trust them, why be with them?
@Monique I think all women have done some share of snooping in their lives...we are detectives by nature. It's crazy how people can look you right in the eye and lie about shit...like wow, I really don't know this person at all.
@Anonymous Looking back the shit is hilarious but damn I was FURIOUS. Like if you don't trust me why are we living together, talking about marriage, etc smh. I think (personally of course) that it is wrong to snoop...if you feel an urge to snoop then you need to check yourself as to why you are in that relationship...and if it really bothers you, bring it up to your S/O, detective work blows up in your face, always...it'll show you something that will break your heart or you'll assume it's something (like my ex) and it'll drive a rift in the relationship...communicate that something off, see if it changes, look for context clues on how your S/O acts...that's just my opinion.
@Krissy that's a true story right there. No trust = no relationship
lol..my chick tried to go through my phone and couldn't figure out how to unlock it. i watched her pick it up and try for like 5 minutes. it's a touch screen she didn't realize she had to slide it.
but when i did have a code..she asked me for the code. i have no problem if you go through my shit in front of me. but when you sneak and do it...it's a no go. i respect ppl's personal space and shit until i think i have a real need to worry. and when i go looking it's to actually find something. not to just "see what i can find". lol. now with that snooping shit. just ask me.
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