Ever sit in the house alone...sad...because you're alone?
Do you complain once a week on average about how you have no man?
Ever roll your eyes whenever someone shares with you how happy they are in a relationship?
Do you sit around with your friends bashing men...usually over wine?
You my friend may suffer from...BITTER BITCH SYNDROME
Most sufferers of bitter bitch syndrome will deny that they suffer from this dibilitating disease and even blame it on the "lack of good men" or the sins of a lover gone past scarring them in such a way that they simply do not want to deal with another "no good man"
I have your prescription if you do suffer from this disease...
Bitch it is not them...IT'S YOU!
Stop damned complaining and realize in order for you to find someone who actually wants to be with your ole bitter bessy bitch ass YOU need to be happy first! No man wants a debbie downer bringing him down! Would you want to date a dude who was always upset over something? No? Well what the fuck makes you think he wants to date you?
"Oh Epitome you don't know shit, once I get a man I'll be happy, then I won't complain"
Wrong chica....one must be happy...TRULY happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else.
Think about it, when in a relationship you have to give up time you would have to yourself and give it to your significant other...money will be spent on your significant other that will more than likely be spent on yourself...you have to do things you may not like because your significant other loves them...you'll have to interact with people you may not like because they're friends/family with your significant other. Add that with the fact that your ass is ALREADY unhappy...and you've created a recipe for disaster.
And Epitome knows bitter bitchdom well honey bunnies...because Epitome was once a bitter bitch herself...yuup...this shiny ball of sunshine you see before you today was once a cloud of dispair. Niggas won't shit, bitches won't shit, I was the "tough guy" that didn't care about...well anything really, I lived in the moment, only planning for the next day because further than that...well I didn't really care. I'd cross that bridge when I got there. And was a chronic sufferer for a long time...up until last year in fact. If you read my blog from the beginning you can see the shift in my writing, think it happened early spring or so.
"So how did you get over it?"
It's weird...I looked in the mirror one day and said..."I'm happy"...and I woke up the next day...said the same thing. I whole heartedly believe in personal mantras...tell yourself how beautiful/smart/witty/funny/whatever you are...and do it everyday. I just woke up one day and was genuinely happy. And from that day I examined why I was unhappy before...and what hand did I play in my own unhappiness? And how can I change that?
I suggest you do the same...you'll never get what you're ultimately looking for (happiness) until you understand and change why you're not already there.
And I can give you a hint to help you...it's not other people. I learned that other people do not dictate how you feel. They are merely a catalyst, your feelings are based on what you ALLOW yourself to feel. Remember when you point the finger at someone else, there's 3 pointing back at you...work from there, sometimes the truth ain't necessarily pretty.
This is your mission should you choose to accept it. I didn't wanna grow up and be one of those 40 something waiting to exhale type bitches, nuh uh, that's not the life for me...is it for you?
1 comment:
Nice Post, I Agree With U. I Just Got Out Of It With A Bastard And Even Tho Guys Have Tried To Cuff Me Down (Be My Man) I Always Deny Cuz I Know Rite Now I'm A Lil Angry At The World, And Baggage Is Not Cute. I Think It's Important To Work On Yourself As A Person First If You Are Still Emotionally Scarred From The Doings Of A Past Lover. If U Are A "Negative Nancy" U Have To Get Some Ish Sorted Out Alone...And Leave The Grudges Behind. (Cant Heal If You Have Hate In Your Heart)
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