To branch off of the "would you tell your significant other" post...
Scenario: You have a friend...good friend...good friend has a boyfriend/girlfriend...good friend's boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on them (or doing some other obscene activity)...
Do you tell your good friend?
I've let it be known to all my friend's that I will tell you if I get info on their significant other because my loyalty lies with my friend....not with their man/woman. My number one concern is my friend's welfare, and as I've stated in my blog before, I protect those I love (friends and family) like a mother protecting her young. I have no problem chopping up a body and driving to another state and dropping the pieces in a river.
Not saying I have done that...I'm just saying I would.
I remember when I was a senior in high school...I walked into class and the talk of the day was how a pregnant girl had revealed who her child's father was...and it just so happened to be one of my good friend's (We had known each other since 6th grade) fiancee. My friend was a junior, her fiancee (he had graduated the year before and was in Iraq at the time). 15 people came up to me within 25 minutes telling me the same story. I leave out of first period and run into a mutual friend of my good friend and I...
"Did you hear!? Did you hear what everyone is saying?" She asked me in a huff.
"Yeah...have you told her yet?" I asked shifting my books.
"Hell no! I'm not telling her! That's not my business!" She says, as soon as she says this my good friend rounds the corner looking all types of sad and whatnot. I walk up to her, she's too engulfed in her own thoughts that she doesn't see the worry on my face.
"I miss my boo." She says with a sigh as she twirls her engagement ring on her finger.
"Look, I don't know how to say this so I'm just gonna come out and say it." I stop her from walking by putting a hand on her shoulder, she looks at me perplexed. "You know ole girl that's pregnant (I referred to her by name because there was more than one), well she going around saying that it's (insert her fiancee's name here) baby." I sigh heavily waiting to hear what she was going to say...I hadn't really planned out what I was gonna say before hand so I wasn't really ready for what was going to come next. She got quiet for a moment...students walking past...she looks like a freight train just hit her. "I didn't wanna tell you but you should know...I don't know if it's true, but that's what everyone is saying."
It ended up being true, and she was (to this day) thankful I told her.
But that could have certainly not been the outcome, she could have flipped on me for bringing her gossip or accused me of trying to break them up, or worse, accused me of wanting him (though I told her from jump I thought he was ugly and so that certainly should have been the furthest thought from her mind).
If I hear something about one of my friend's significant others, I will certainly run tell dat. I'd rather they hear it from me than someone who isn't their friend and is just telling them to be malicious.
But sometimes a friend may not want to hear that...or believe it, I guess you have to gauge your friendship in order to know if you should tell or not.
What say you blog followers? To tell or not to tell?
It ended up being true, and she was (to this day) thankful I told her.
But that could have certainly not been the outcome, she could have flipped on me for bringing her gossip or accused me of trying to break them up, or worse, accused me of wanting him (though I told her from jump I thought he was ugly and so that certainly should have been the furthest thought from her mind).
If I hear something about one of my friend's significant others, I will certainly run tell dat. I'd rather they hear it from me than someone who isn't their friend and is just telling them to be malicious.
But sometimes a friend may not want to hear that...or believe it, I guess you have to gauge your friendship in order to know if you should tell or not.
What say you blog followers? To tell or not to tell?
4 comments:
I feel what u saying 100% and i too felt that way once about this situation but i once informed one of my close friends that her bf was cheating her and she flipped the script on me...Sayin u just jealous...u want him..blah blah blah. From that day forward me and her never spoke another word to each other. So now I never say a word. I just throw a couple of hints out there but never say what i saw...I cherish my friendships to much now to hurt what we have.
That's simple.I've got my friends back all day. So if I see anything suspect then I'ma let it be known.
At the same time if I see my boys girl around the way and she's carrying herself proper, avoiding outward advances etc,etc...I'ma let my man know. "Hey you got a good one right here."
I'm telling all day. Like you said, my loyalty lies with my friend; not the other person.
Hmm, on this Im indifferent. I used to say I'd tell but have seen some situations turn real ugly because of it.
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