As of late many people (many men) have asked me this question that really cooks my grits....
"Why are you single?"
When I respond with a perplexed look or a smile attempting to side step the question...they probe further...
"I mean you seem like such a catch, you're (insert flattery type comments here) so why hasn't anybody snatched you up?"
I mean everytime I hear it it's like the person asking me is so shocked about it that OBVIOUSLY there must be something wrong with me seeing as though I should have men beating down my door to get my time.
Hmm...just because I don't have a man doesn't mean they aren't beating down my door.
Au contraire mon frere. It's quite the opposite in fact.
But I mean really? How am I expected to answer that? If I answer it honestly I seem like a bitter bitch...
I'm single because I want to find a man who actually works an honest job everyday, doesn't fuck around on his woman, can hold an intelligent conversation on something other than a video he saw on BET...
I'm single because I'm focusing on what's important, developing myself as well as raising my son and I don't need a man interrupting our progress...
I'm single because the men I have met lately have all been children in their own right...looking for all of my attention without any of the give back...
I'm single because I'm not looking for something for just the moment, I want something for a lifetime.
In a nutshell...I'm single because I know what I want out of life and what direction I am headed in, I know what I will stand for and I certainly know what I will not. I am looking for a man to compliment me...not fulfill me. I'm looking for a partner in the days ahead, not a handler and certainly not someone I must handle.
But why isn't the fact that I just "haven't found the right one yet" an obvious answer to that question instead of assuming something is wrong with the person in question?
True...there are plenty of women out here who are single cause they are crazy, but why must I automatically be assumed to be one of them?
Especially after you have gotten to know me enough to determine in your mind that I'm a "good catch"?
5 comments:
Good luck...
because us "good ones" are suppose to be taken as the saying goes so it always shocks men when they run into one they feel is good and no one has snatched her up yet.
single life, FTW! rushing and not knowing yourself well enough is the answer for attracting ain't shit niggas. patience...it's all about patience...
great post!! i feel you on so many levels!! i hate that question too!! and its like.. why do you care WHY i'm single... aren't you tryna get at me?? you should be happy! ..
and it should me obvious.. if i look good .. got myself together.. that means im not a settler!! and i don't give just any old body [the question asker lol] the time of day...
@E: Thanks
@Krissy: some men = idiots I swear
@Adrienne: Yeeeees *cosigns on comment*
@withlove: Thaaank you! Why are you grilling me like steaks instead of trying to be that one to snatch me up? And welcome to my little corner of the earth.
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