You know, I can remember talking about cheating years ago before being in a "grown up" relationship and saying...
"I could NEVER stay with a man after he's cheated...nuh uh...no way!"
But...
Now I don't know. I really think it depends on the situation. If you been with someone 7, 8, 9 years and you find out they slipped up...I don't know if I could just pack it up and chuck the deuces :-/
I mean throw away all of that because they fucked up? Someone you've shared that much of your life with? I don't know man...I just don't know.
Now I've never been put in the situation so I don't know how I'd react but I think as I've gotten older and looked at the bigger picture I'm 50/50 on it.
NOT saying that it's okay, and most def not saying I'd let it slide. It'd be alot of work to rebuild that trust that was lost...but who am I to say it never could be?
*shrugs shoulders*
And what if the cheating was just emotional (no physical contact involved)? I think that would hurt more than the physical...because people give up their bodies so freely now but to give up their emotions? Their minds? Shit that's deep! I think that would be harder to recover from than physical cheating.
Thoughts?
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I was just having this conversation w my boyfrnd yesterday. I do agree that emotional cheating probably who would hurt more than the phhysical cheating but then again I DONT KNOW. I HATE liars & cheaters. I would rather my mate tell me if they were interesting in someone else verses doing it & then telling me first. But like you I NEVER really know how I would react if the situation occured. I could see myself trying to wrk thru the situation if its someone that Ive been w for a long period of time.
They are both hard to recover from. I have experienced both but i think the emotional one was much harder for me than physical. It was hard accepting that my boyfriend at the time i had a stronger emotional bond with another female than with me. I was the one he looked to for support and advice to find out that he seeked that strong bond with someone else fucked me up hard.
Cheating is cheating no matter what form it comes in and if you " let it slide" or overlook it you better believe it will happen again and again. Lying and cheating is a no brainer for me. I don't want to be with a man like that and it's just something I won't tolerate. Even if you stayed with him after finding out something like this, the trust is broken and you spend the rest of the relationship wondering what he's doing. It's not worth it and it could drive a person crazy. I say if you're faced with a cheater, even after 50 fucking years, move on!
I agree w Krissy too. Once you cheat all the trust is GONE. After something like that happens it would definitely be hard for me to trust that person.
i cant leave a comment cuz it would turn into a blog post... and this is your blog so im not even gonna debo your comment box like that lol
i agree you never really know until you've been there, but i would rather physical cheeting than emotional. it depends on the way its brought to you too.
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