Baby Daddy....the low down

Because I know ever so often yall will read stuff I write about episodes he and I have, I just want to say for the record...I have a good baby daddy.

However, I find it odd to give praise for something you SHOULD be doing anyway.

You have a kid, you are SUPPOSED to be a good parent.

But I will take this opportunity to do just that.

Me and my son's father didn't work out as a couple for multiple reasons which I don't really feel like going into since this is supposed to be a "feel good" post. Anywho, even though we aren't together, I think we make a very good parental unit. We have the same value set as far as raising our son and work together to make sure that even though we aren't living in the same house and aren't a "regular" family...we are still and will always be a family. He is an excellent father even though we are not in a relationship any longer, he still continues his role as a "doting" father and makes sure I as well as our son know that our son is THE number one priority in his life.

As well it should be.

He makes sure to attend all functions that my son has and he comes to get him every weekend. If we could all live in one house, him with his significant other, me with mine....I'm almost 100% certain that he would agree to it just so he could be with his son everyday.

Girls I meet who have baby daddy drama often tell me,

"You're so lucky to have a good father to your son..."

I reply...

"I shouldn't feel lucky...that's what he's supposed to do."

It's kinda like a rock and a hard place looking at it like that. Because, like I said, you're are expected to be a good parent....but you still want to give credit where credit is due.

But to bow down and thank him for being a good father to his son simply because there are so many other men out here who don't do that....nah, I can't get with that. I made a conscious decision when I got pregnant to weigh my future with him...and what my future as well as what my unborn child's life would be like if it didn't work out between us. The fact that I knew that he was a good person and would make a great father is one reason that I decided against abortion.

Alot of women (not all...definetely not all) make the mistake of getting pregnant by men who ain't shit, plain and simple. And then make the second mistake of thinking that a baby will make said ain't shit man change his tune.

Nuh uh girlfriend...it don't work like that.

No one, I repeat, NO ONE, will change unless they want to. Period. Sorry bout your luck if you think anything other than that is the case. Women need to start realizing that ANYBODY you have sex with is a potential father to your child, even when there is contraception is involved because as we all know...the only 100% effective forn of birth control is not having sex.

So if you fucking an ain't shit nigga...expect him to be an ain't shit daddy.

If you fucking a broke nigga...expect him to be a broke daddy.

If you fucking a nigga that puts shit before you...expect him to be a daddy that puts shit before his kid.

Now I'm not saying this is always the case, but the chances of it...very high.

But anyway, the whole point is...I appreciate him for what he does and I certainly let him know that.