But then I remember the one thing we have up on humans of the male persuasion...
We don't have to deal with rejection!
A guy I know once told me that if he goes out at night he could speak to 10 women and walk away with 1 number...now this is an attractive guy who told me this so it's not that he's ugly or anything (granted he's kind of an eccentric character so I could see why his ratio is that great) so he's batting 10%...10% is a sucky ass average in my opinion.
Now me being a female, I could have 10 guys approach me and turn down each one of them (generally speaking if I'm out it's more like 4 or 5 that hit on me but I digress) and think nothing of it...but yall go through that girl after girl, night after night, week after week, year after year...that's some depressing shit right thurr!
How do yall cope with this? I mean I know evenutally if something happens enough you get used to it but how long does the pain of rejection sting? Does it hurt really bad at first and then mellow out? Does it still hurt like the first time if you really want the chick? Or is rejection just something you grow accostomed to and after the 50th rejection you're like "fuck it...I'll get the next one"
Well either way...to all my male followers...because I love you ever so much...I will apologize to all the chicks who rejected you whether it was rudely or tactfully done.
Purple Kisses for you all
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You've hit on a subject that I've actually blogged about a time or two myself and a reality that some people seem to refuse to acknowledged; and that is that women accept men. Most of us men don't get to pick our women. Not unless we're either rich or extremely attractive. Otherwise, women accept men and men reach out to women. That's just how it is and that's why I tend to laugh at attractive women that are forever complaining about their men, because they got to pick them.
Even many ugly women get an opportunity to pick. It's a reality that most people don't seem to be open to acknowledging.
I learned at a young age that if you ask enough women (it's like sales you've gotta keep asking) that ultimately you'll be happy.
@Reggie: I had a male friend whom I used to speak to and he said something just like that, 'I merely presented myself to you, you actually accepted me"...pretty profound for the hoodrat that he was lol
Um, I've rejected plenty of women. I just rejected two today. I don't have any type of lies to tell them though, I just say no thank you or I'm not interested.
However, for the most part, I go after women, I'm successful maybe 6 times out of 10. Good enough for me. Meeting women and getting contact info is...nothing. Getting them to grill salmon, make broccoli, invite me over, and have sex is sometimes more difficult.
@undressingHER: LMAO! I can see your point...maybe every guy isn't as smooth as you though *shrug*
This is one of the few trade offs for social & sexual system that is for the most part in our favor. Yeah the woman makes the decision most of the time. In exchange we have more options number wise, have to be less to be presentable (in most cases) and can afford to be single longer.
Personally the rejection hurt more when I was young. As you get older it shouldn't really be a great deal.
yea yall women can't take rejection. i'll listen to chicks try to figure out why a dude won't give her the time or day. or why they put all their energy into a dude and he's not even interested. and i think..."that's everyday life for a guy". but yall don't think that way when yall do it to us.
@Nightfall: This is VERY true, men have way more options than a woman because...a closed mouth don't get fed
@Unpretentious: yeah we can't...I was one of them that did exactly what you described above...or hoping for a guy to approach me and be mad when he didn't (when I was the one who wasn't even throwing out a damn signal) now I just go for it...if he bites cool, if not...cool
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