Nope...I was just lazy **shrug**
But Monique reminded me of it with a tweet she had this past week that stated she wouldn't shack up with a man...and I had to retweet that shit right there cause I agree!
"Hol on bitch...didn't you live with your BD?" -yall
Yeah I did...for 2 years as a matter of fact...and I'll never do that shit again. I learned from cohabiting with my ex that generally speaking (not in all cases of course) that once a man starts living with you...getting the pussy whenever he wants...having dinner ready every night...having a warm body next to him every night...
They get complacent.
What's the point in marrying you when everything he would get after marrying you...he's already getting? There's no incentive. I mean if you got free groceries would you go back and pay for them after you ate them? I know I sure as hell wouldn't.
I have no problem with playing 'spen the night' you can get a lil taste of what's in store for you...of course you can come over and get a hot meal and some warm....sheets....to lay in **mischievous grin** but you not gonna get that 365 until you puts a rang on it sir.
**shakes hand in front of computer screen a la Beyonce**
Also I want to enstill in my son that shaking up isn't the move to make, you wanna sleep next to/wake up next to a chick everyday and not frown when she smells your stank morning breath? Well marry her and do that shit!
As a former shacker upper I must say that playing house is not on my list of things to do...left that in my childhood...I'm Epitome, and I approved this message.
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"I have no problem with playing 'spen the night' you can get a lil taste of what's in store for you...of course you can come over and get a hot meal and some warm....sheets....to lay in **mischievous grin** but you not gonna get that 365 until you puts a rang on it sir."
I agree wholeheartedly! That whole "testing the waters" bs is another WACK excuse to try and validate it. Saving on bills? Try again. "I'm over there enough so I might as well just move in?" Try again. *does the Beyonce hand motion with you*
*high five* Girl, folks taking shacking up all serious and get mad when the man is out doing his thing. hello! he has no entitlment to you.
My son's father spends the night and the weekends (even though he lives 10 mins away), but he has his place and I have mine. Until there is a ring on the finger, aint it happenin' , cap'n.
I've shacked up before and it lasted all of 3 months before his ass started cheating on me (in our damn house!) and things got too comfortable. Until we get back from our honeymoon, no names will be changed on the mortgage and no clothes will be moved.
I've never done the shacking up thing but I am not totally opposed to it ONCE we are engaged. Before then, no thanks.
We can do the almost married trail run tho. I think that's necessary.
I wouldn't recommend it to a home girl, but I have done the shacking up thing. I can't say that would defer me from "popping the question" tho. I think from my experience I just wasn't ready...
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