"You never ask about me when we talk."
I replied..."I didn't wanna overstep my bounds."
He responded..."I figured you didn't care."
I replied..."Well then why continue to talk to me at all?"
He responded with....
"Because I'm still in love with you....."
I was at a loss for words...how does one respond to that? I pride myself on knowing how to react in pretty much whatever situatiuon I'm thrown into but this one? Ya girl was stumped...I had nothing to say to make the situation better...nothing to ease the troubled waters...no words of encouragement...no witty remark...all I had was silence, and then a short time later I added a "Wow." to that. I love him, I'll always love him and have love for him...but in love I am not, nor was I ever. After sitting for awhile and thinking on the situation I thought of what agony he must go through, we talk about my current relationship and I felt like shit! How selfish of me. Here I am basking in the glow of a new relationship while this man is secretly loving me? That shit has got to hurt...hurt bad. He told me not to feel bad about it, that he knows how to deal with what he's feeling...*sigh* still feel kinda bad...even though I know it's not my fault...nor nothing I can do to change it.
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WOW.. I can't ever say i have been in that situation so really have insight but i will say do you think you can continue on a friendship with him knowing his true feeling for you?
Especially if you continue into a serious relationship with someone else
Since we stopped dating I don't initiate conversation with him, he'll email me, we'll talk briefly and keep it moving...he asked me to go to the movies yesterday which I politely declined at which point he got offended but I explained to him given his feelings for me and my current relationship it is not a wise decision. At that point I think the lightbulb went off and he said "I get it, we just Internet chatter buddies" so THAT I can do...I can be supportive of him, talk about his issues whatever they may be but we are friends from a distance...hopefully he sees and understands that as well.
i've been in that situation. except i had no idea why the chick KEPT talking about new dudes. and i NEVER spoke to her about my new chick. just out of respect cause i knew she had a few lingering feelings. but one day she was pissing me off one day and i said something about my new chick. and she flew off the handle. got pissy. started saying, "how dare you move on". "how dare you be dating someone else"..and it's like umm..hold up. lol.
tough position to be in. but that's why i can't really be friends with exes. it's gonna be weird from now one. watch.
Well I've never been in that situation but I would just take it as a compliment and carry on with my current relationship.
i'm only friends with one ex and he's hella cool. He also has told me on more than one occasion that he's still in love with me and plans to be back with me one day. I laugh at him everytime but i know he's dead ass serious. We got for awhile without speaking and then he'll hit me up randomly and we start chit chatting again. It's been like this for 3 years now. He doesn't wanna let me go as a friend and he doesn't like that ive moved on. It's gotta be torture for him.
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