Chivalry...a lesson

I was watching Millionaire Matchmaker on Bravo and the matchmaker Patty was arguing with on e of the guys who had came for her services and she said to him:

"Chivalry is not dead! A woman isn't going to spread for you if you don't have manners!"

"And if she does spread without them...is that the type of chick you want on your team?" I thought to myself.

So this blog will be first directed at the men and then secondly to the ladies.

Men...

Chivarly is not dead, no matter how many shirts, hats, or bumper stickers you see with the slogan:

That shit is simply not true...women didn't kill chivalry...girls did. Girls do not expect anything from men except for maybe a meal and a sore back. Women however expect...and deserve much more.

• Open (and close) doors for her...everytime...not just on the first date, not just to be suave...EVERYTIME. I don't care if you running out for a burrito bowl at Chipotle...open the car door...then the door to the store when she enters and exits AND when you get to the car close her door for her...yes, even in the cold, yes, even in the rain.
• When you are in public, escort her...hold her hand, provide her your arm, press your hand into the small of her back, walk at her pace.
• If it's raining and there is only one umbrella, hold it mostly over her. If there is no umbrella, provide her your coat to go over her head, extra points if you carry the coat over her head so it doesn't mess her hair.
• If there is only one seat, give it to her. If she enters the room and no seats are left, stand.
• The lady sits first at a table, you remove the chair and push it forward for her, we are ladies after all and "too dainty"  to do such manual labor.
• Whenever the lady you are accompanying enters or exits the room, you are to stand, especially if at dinner since you have to pull out her seat.
• If you are dropping her off at home, open her car door and walk her to her door. Make sure she is inside safely before you leave.
• If she's driving home, tell her to call/text when she's safely inside.

• Give her your coat if she's cold (my son's father won me over by giving me the shirt off his back when we were at the movies on our first date...he sat shivering in a wife beater while I sat in his T-shirt).
• When walking in a parking lot or on a street with traffic, the woman always walks on the inside, this it to protect her from debris or water splashing from passing by vehicles and also to protect her from a freak accident should a car jump a curb etc. (I make sure I do this with my son, he's always furthest from traffic).
• Pump her gas if you are riding with her.

I know it seems like alot but in the end you get maaaaajor coo coo points for this from a lady, am I saying do this with every female? Not if you do not intend to keep her around...but if you do plan to keep her around, do these things.

Ladies...

Your list is not nearly as long as the fellas...in fact it only has two bullet points:

• Allow a man to do the above listed for you without so much as a raised eyebrow or a question as to why.
• Expect a man to do the above listed for you.

As I've blogged about before, we have been conditioned that we as women can do anything, when males first started walking me to my door, opening and closing all doors for me I had a hearty laugh when I got home and called said gentleman a "lame"...that was in my youth. It is a man's job...to be a man! Allow and expect him to act as such. If a man takes you to a nice restaurant, it is customary for him to order for you...do not interject with "why?" when  he asks you what you'll be having for dinner...and for goodness sakes do not blast off with, "I can order for myself!"

Would you tell a man whose offered to rake your leaves for you that you can rake the leaves yourself? No? Then don't do that any other time when a man is attempting to do something for you. He knows you can do it yourself, more than likely he wouldn't be with you if you couldn't.

A man wants a strong woman, yes...but at the end of the day...he still wants a woman.

Play your part and let him play his.