Meet the family

So I got this dude I'm dealing with...I like to call him B4N (boo 4 now). He could never be my long term, but he's fun for now. We met the first week of November, first guy I have given my number to with intentions of carrying it further since I broke up with the ex. He wasn't smooth when he came up to me but he was cute enough and made me laugh, but I knew that nothing could come of it other than "kicking it" because (not to sound bougie) but girls like me don't make relationships with guys like him...that's just what it is; (that sounded way worse than I intended it to be); let me clarify before I continue what I mean by the aforementioned statement...

Me
25 years old
full time job
1 kid
in college part time
paying down debt in order to purchase first home
knows credit score
vast vocabulary
has a car
has a license

Him
27 years old (28 in September)
no job...well no legal one if you catch my drift
2 kids (1 biological, the other he claims since he's always been around)
baby momma drama
doesn't have a credit card...or a bank account for that matter
no car
no license
asks me for definitions to words....often

The list goes on, but you see what I mean? Now most people would say why waste time with him...but even though he has all these attributes that make him a bad candidate for long term, but these same attributes (especially the baby momma drama) make him an excellent pick for short term. Due to the drama, and not having a real job, he doesn't have alot of spare time, and I require alot of attention. Besides he's a cool guy...we kick it, spark a blunt, talk about life, laugh, and on top of all that, he puts it DOWN.

Anywho, we had an understanding from jump, I don't want a boyfriend, he don't want a girlfriend...I warned him that I come with a disclaimer. I am the coolest person you will ever meet, so no matter what your intentions are, you will fall in deep like (possibly love) with me so keep your emotions in check. He laughed it off, "Yeah right." He said....but low and behold we are 3 months into our friendship and now he wanna get all mushy gushy with me which leads me into the reason for this post.

Yesterday he calls me...

"Hey mama, what's up, what you doin?"

"Just leaving Wawa, what's up?"

"I wanted you to drop by and smile for me a minute."

"Cool, where you at?"

"Up the street from the crib, you know where James food store is?"

"Yeah, by the railroad tracks?"

"Yeah, up there, pull into the parking lot of the food store, I'm gonna be out there."

"Cool, I'll be there in a minute."

Disconnects call

I'm sitting in the parking lot, he rolls up...with his daughter...whom I've never met...on purpose...because I for one do not think that children should be introduced to people you are dealing with on a friendly basis...if you are serious with said person and see said person as a fixture in your life then yes, they should be introduced. But if we just kicking it, don't even THINK about asking to meet my son, cause you will get the side eye too hard. So I'm about to hyperventilate cause this is a shock to me...he gets in the car with her, she sits on his lap.

"You gonna say hi?" He asks her.

"No." She replies and turns over...on top of meeting a stranger, she's sick he says, and I'm sure my less than enthusiastic demeanor didn't help matters either.

He tells me to pull up to the house behind the store, I do. I see a lady standing at the door...also see a younger woman at the door...also see a man walking across the street towards the house I'm in front of...what do they all have in common? They all looking SLAM in my face, I feel nervous, like Jennifer Hudson....I don't like...being under your spotlight. He gets out of the car, takes his daughter in the house. After about 2 minutes, I hear yelling, screaming, things breaking.

"What the fuck is going on in there?" I say to myself hitting the house with the side eye trying to be nosy without looking nosy by turning my head. B4N comes back out with his daughter and gets in my car, he proceeds to try and make her say hi to me to which I tell him not to force her...she is a sick two year old and besides I don't really want her to remember me anyway seeing as though he has baby momma drama and that's one thing I refuse to deal with.

"My family is raw." He says with a nervous chuckle...he's embarrassed...he knows this is nothing that would happen in my family based off of what little I have told him about my family. (Little does he know this type of behavior has happened in my family....gun pulled on my mom, knife pulled on my aunt, my grandma hit with a tub of grease, aunt getting choked out and blood spurting from her head....did I mention this was all one fight? True it happened years ago and we have "evolved" into the Huxtables now...but yeah, it used to be raw round these parts).

He sits in the car, I text my friends, he talks to his daughter until he evenutally sees that the situation is uncomfortable...he asks me for a kiss...I refuse. He asks why, I say that's disrespectful to his daughter, he sucks his teeth and says he'll call me later.

I've gotten conflicting information on if I should take meeting the kids this seriously. One of my friends agreed with me that that was a very big step and signified something very great as far as his impression of me goes. Another one of my friends said that I was overreacting and that we talk about each others kids so why wouldn't I meet her.